Wake up and make the coffee, check! Get the kids up, fed, dressed, check the homework, then off to school; check! Time for work, check! Drink more coffee, check! Progress report on the bosses desk, oh he is not going to be happy; check! Call the dentist, check! In-laws are coming this weekend, gotta go shopping; check!
Not a bad days work before noon, but wait, there is the 2nd and 3rd part of the day to handle also. Do you ever feel like you would have to be a super hero to handle your life? I have been there too. But before you grab your cape and point your chin toward the sky, lets stop and think if you really want the superhero reputation. Yes, today we discuss superheros.
Superman, Batman, Spiderman. Amazing, strong, standing alone in the world for righteousness. It is them against the odds, against the evil forces threatening to rip apart all that is good in their community. Well when you put it that way, I kinda want to be a superhero, too. But think about these 3 heroes:
They all are alone, brooding, with the weight of the world on their shoulders. When there is a problem, they have to work it out and working it out often looks like internalizing the issue, to the detriment of their personal life. Will Peter Parker ever stop being a moody young man and tell Mary Jane he loves her, and that he is Spiderman? Nope, he just keeps pushing her away, feeling like he has to do it on his own. Why? Because he is a super hero! That is what strong people do.
Is that what you do? Are there places in your life where you are feeling like a superhero and feel like you’re all on your own? I have places I feel that way in my life. But then I have to ask myself, is that by my own choice? Many times there are places that we feel like we have to handle this. And we keep more and more tasks, stress, and emotion on top of what is already brooding there, until . . . BOOM! We explode!
Not sure you do this? Have you ever thought, Why ME? Have you caught yourself doing the, “I am the ONLY one in this house (family, office, church, etc) that ever .. . ”
Then you might have a superhero’s complex. Why do we do this? I suggest if we didn’t get something out of it we would just stop doing it. What benefit is there from the superhero (I will do it myself) complex? When there is a WIN, a good conference at school for the kids, the project at works goes through under budget, the house is spotless at the end of the week (even though you work 50 hours too!), who gets to take the credit for that win? If you are the superhero, it is you! I DID THIS!
Or perhaps you are a superhero because “If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself”. What is the benefit there? You get to be right about everything and have everything your way. Toilet paper over the top, or around the back?
But for every win, there are also prices that we will have to pay.
What are the prices for being your very own superhero?
Just like Superman, Batman, and Spiderman there may be a large feeling of loneliness. People in your personal life don’t understand why you keep pushing them away when they try to help. Or perhaps you have just excluded yourself for so long that others have simply stopped helping. Also, all the pressure to make the decisions and choices rests only on you. That can become a lot to carry. And when someone else has a problem, who do they call? YOU! Why, because you’re a superhero and are going you help of course, and you will never tell them no; you will just be more stressed out and resentful. You may even pay a price with your health. Holding on to stress can absolutely make you sick and stress eating doesn’t support your weight loss or health goals at all.
So what is the solution? To stop being amazing?
Do you remember watching (or watch them again on Netflix) the Justice League cartoons when you were young? That is where Superman, the Flash, Green Lantern, Wonder Woman, Batman, The Hawk and others all worked together. They not only saved our world hundreds of times, but they saved other worlds and other civilizations. The Flash was always cracking jokes to lighten the moodiness of the Green Lantern or Batman. Working together they got more done. Yes, yes, I know it was a cartoon; but check it out – it is a common theme. X-men, Smurfs, Fraggle Rock, even the modern day Jimmy Neutron (he always gets them in trouble, then with his friends he gets out of trouble). There is less pouting, moody, lonely behavior in the groups of superheros than if they fight crime all on their own.
So I challenge you to find and form a team of other superheros. You will pay a price for this. You will have to stop being the lone hero who can claim credit, or you may have to let others do it their way, or you may get less recognition for everything you have done. You may think this is a small price to pay, but once you start making the change it may not feel like it. You may even have to admit that your way of doing a thing is not working. . . dum dum dahhhhh! You may have to admit to others you were wrong, or that you can’t do it alone anymore. Can you trust another person that much?
The trick is to look for other superheros like yourself. So lets talk fitness for a bit. Perhaps you have made some strides on your own, or you are finding it hard to stay on track yourself. Well, I think anyone who attempts to tackle their fitness goals is already a superhero. But you don’t have to do it alone. Reach out and grab the capes that surround you for help. Start a walking group at work. Join a gym. Go to a Zumba class. Join a facebook page about healthy eating. But find a support group, find your league.
I invite you, if you feel like we are a good fit, to join the Impact League. We have fitness classes, one-on-one training, accelerated results coaching and weight loss challenges to be able to support you. Right now I encourage you to maintain your momentum from this challenge toward summer. It is almost shorts and swim suit weather, don’t wait till June. We have 2 support programs running right now.
1) April through August training. Join now and receive April and May, indoor small group training; then June through August join us for our morning outdoor fitness classes. This package is designed to lean out your body before summer and then tone up during those summer months. You can join us for 3 sessions a week right now and SAVE $75. For the entire 5 months you pay only $535 (or we can break it up into monthly payments).
2) Join our next 9 week weight loss challenge. Meetings will continue to be held on Thursday with a weigh in weekly from 5 to 5:30pm, meeting from 5:30 – 6pm. The cost is only $35 and the 1st, 2nd and 3rd place losers will win a cash prize; also the person that loses the highest amount of inches will win a cash prize. Please come this Thursday April 4th at 530pm for more details. or check out the challenge at https://www.facebook.com/events/460527704017879/
Just because our 12 week challenge is done, doesn’t mean we are done supporting you. Reach out and grab on to our capes and together we can all achieve more!